Dealing with PCOS and Extreme Menstrual Pain

So I came across this post from xoNecole on how to know when your menstrual cramps are abnormal. It was something I’d been all too familiar with being that I’ve dealt with it since puberty. I have had the worst cramps that I could ever imagine. I mean nearly every month since getting my period, I’ve had to deal with excruciating pain in my lower abdomen and back. Sometimes it’s so bad I can barely stand up or walk. Extreme fatigue, diarrhea (I know, TMI), feeling nausea, losing my appetite or even getting sick and vomiting are all symptoms of my cycle. My only solution would be to crawl into a ball on the nearest floor, crying my eyes out and calling for my mother. (I’m such a baby when it comes to these things). Even hearing me describe it is like describing death.


(Photo: A Special Needs Media)

Finally, I had to go to the doctor because the pain was so unbearable. I’d literally miss days of school because I couldn’t get out of bed. Not to mention, I had a spell of week long periods, but only every 3 months. I was diagnosed with PCOS at the age of 16, which stands for PolyCystic Ovary Syndrome. What happens is, there is a problem in which a woman’s hormones are out of balance (over production of the male hormone, androgen). It can cause problems with your periods (irregular periods) and make it difficult to get pregnant (infertility). Other symptoms include, but aren’t limited to, weight gain (difficulty losing weight), excess facial hair growth, and cysts on your ovaries (hence the name).


Treatment is available for those with this diagnosis but I’m not here to talk about that just yet. I want to focus more on easing the pain of PCOS related menstrual cramps. Believe me, cramping is bad and annoying on any level, but abnormal cramps are that much worst. I am not a medical professional, but here are some things that I do to help lighten the blow.

  1. Drink water. I know, it’s the clichest thing to say but it’s so true. Not only is water a contributor to all things beauty, it does wonders for your health. (Duh!)
  2. Exercise and diet. I honestly didn’t believe everyone saying exercise helps with cramping until I tried it. Best decision of my life. Your diet can help ease the symptoms of PCOS which in turn relieve some of the pain of your cycle.
  3. Hot bath. Submerging your whole body in a bath of warm liquid and it stops your flow for a while. Double score!
  4.  Heating pad and hot tea. Literally anything hot in, on, or around the body is good!
  5. An orgasm. Now I can’t say that intercourse is my first choice during my menstruation (although it works for some), a good orgasm can ease the pain. No intercourse needed.
  6. Having a glass (not a bottle) of wine. I find that having a glass of wine during my cycle not only eases the pain of my cramps but also leads to shorter periods. Thank me later.
  7. Period tracker and meds. Although my periods are irregular, they still have I slight pattern. I use a period tracker app to help me figure around the time I can expect Mother Nature, then I start an ibuprofen regimen a couple of days before my expected start date. Of course, there are times when Mother Nature wins and pulls a fast one, but I’m always prepared with Tylenol. I’ll start my regimen at the first sign of my cycle.

As some things can’t be avoided, we can only conspire to make them more tolerable.

Disclaimer: I am in no way, shape, or form a professional in the medical field or have ability to diagnose or treat anyone else’s condition. I can only provide helpful tips and advice through research and experience. Find more information at WebMd, The PCOS Foundation, Mayo Clinic, Homorne Health Network, or talking to your OB/GYN.



Lifestyle Link Party


Signature Walk

fb_img_1452048268484.jpgEarlier this year, I was invited to talk to young aspiring models here in the Carolinas! (I totally forgot to post before the event, so forgive me). Signature Walk took place in Sumter, SC on January 16, 2016. It was such a great experience. I love sharing my experiences and stories to people with the same dream as me. They understand the struggle and scarifies that have to be made in order to get where you want to be. There will be more classes to attend and I will be there to be a model coach.


Me with Signature Walk Founder, LaTonya Franklin of Mood Swing Photography


All of  the models did such an amazing job! They taught me so much. It was  such a success that I’ve decided to be a model coach. It was never something I’d thought about early on, but that class made me realize I could do it.


Here are the details on my makeup look that day.

(Face – Bare Minerals Complexion Rescue Tinted Hydrating Gel Cream in Sienna, Gerard Cosmetics Star Powder in Lucy; Brows – NYX Brow Pencil in Dark Brown, LA Girl PRO Concealer in Toffee; Eyes – Bare Minerals Eye Shadow in Thank You, Maybelline Expert Wear Eye Shadow in Forest Green, NYX Eyebrow Cake Powder in Brunette (used as shadow), NYX Liquid Eyeliner in Black, Kiss NY i-Envy Mascara; Lips – NYX Soft Matte Lip Cream in Amsterdam over Black Radiance Lipstick in 5016)

Happy Birthday Domino J!


A quarter of a century! Yep, I had my 25th birthday! Not today, but my birthday was January 7th, 2016. I’ve always wanted to do an extravagant party like a Sweet Sixteen or something but I never had the chance. This year, I decided to change that by having a Harlem Nights themed birthday party.


The venue was so perfect. It was a 1920’s themed lounge in Columbia! How cool is that?! It’s called Empire Supper Club. They always have something new going on too. From burlesque shows and fire breathers to international food and music nights. It was an amazing night to say the least.


I had two dresses and this one (above) has to be my favorite dress! I walked into this vintage store in Columbia, called Hip*Wa*Zee, and it was in front on  a mannequin waiting for me to make it my own. I heard the voice of angels with light shining down it. *queues ahhh* I got this beautiful headpiece from there too. And I was so excited to find my shoes at Charlotte Russe for $10!! You guys know how much I love a good sale, especially a shoe sale.


(Dress, Headpiece, Cigarette holder – Hip*Wa*Zee; Shoes & Earrings – Charlotte Russe; Bracelet/Ring set – RUE 21)


My cake and cupcakes were done by no one other than my good friend, Chef Pebbles. When I tell you her cakes are crack, they are addictive. And in honor of Sugar Ray’s, I had my very own candy bar set up. We had jelly beans, rock candy, sixlets, and some pretty silver gumballs. The funny thing is that I didn’t know the coloration between the candy and the movie (being that I watched it for the first time 2 days before my party), until after I watched it. I’d wanted the candy bar from the start and when I figured it out, I really thought of myself as a genius lol! (A girl can dream, right?)

I also had a photo booth with 1920’s themed photo props! (more party pics coming soon) And yes, I planned this whole shindig myself! I mean, I am an event planner ;-)!

All in all, I HAD SO MUCH DAMN FUN! I’m grateful that I was able to celebrate another year with people in my life that support, love, and care for you. And, of course, I feel that way about you guys so I had to share! I hope you enjoy!